Week at a Glance
This week is a bit of a blur: 2 snow storms, Valentine's Day, yoga, lunch with former coworkers and then yesterday, the loss of my very best friend, Lily the Cat.
RIP - Lily
(2003 - 2017)
Lily had actually started eating a bit last weekend but then dislocated her kneecap jumping off our lap. She was limping for a day and it managed to pop back in to her arthritic knees. Today, Friday 2/17) Lily was scheduled for an ultrasound and X-ray to find out why she is losing weight, not eating much, breathing louder and sleeping lots more than usual these days. We learned that her lymph nodes were enlarged, she had a tumor on her lung and a solid mass on the base of her heart which was pressing on her trachea causing labored breathing at times.💔💔 We decided it was time to say goodbye to our best cat ever.
About Lily - We adopted Lily as a 10 week old kitten in Rhode Island. An indoor cat only in a multi-cat household, from her earliest days with us, Lily craved warmth. She could often be found burrowed under a scatter rug, under a quilt or often basking in a sun puddle. A petite girl, the most she ever weighed was in the 7 lb range but her weight dropped to just 5 lbs recently. I've owned many cats in my life, and loved them all, but, Lily was so special and unique. She was never afraid of strangers, but didn't like being held by anyone and was a bit squirmy (even for us) if you picked her up. Despite this, she was a genuine lap cat, 100%. She was an equal opportunity lapper - my lap or the hubs, she would take turns.We had routines, coffee with me on my lap after breakfast and she loved to read with me everyday as well. My girl had an automatic clock built in as well I swear. When it was time for me to go to bed (generally, around the same time every night), she'd stare at me continuously while on my lap until I said, "okay Lily, you win, time for bed. " The minute I hopped in bed she would join me as well, positioning herself around my knees and staying there until morning. How will I ever be able to go to bed tonight, my first night without my girl? I love you Lily and can only hope that our paths will cross again someday. You will be forever missed. 💔💔
Books Read
Setting Free the Kites; Alex George (arc)
GP Putnam & Sons - 2017
Setting Free the Kites was a quick read that held my interest. A story about growing up, love, loss, and imperfect parents. This is another charming story that takes you back to the times before cellphones and video games when life was for teens was quite different from what it's like today. Another great story by Alex George: well-written, memorable characters, highly recommended. (4/5 stars)
Algonquin Books & Highbridge Audio
(Xe Sands, narrator) - 2013
(My Thoughts) - Set in the suburbs of Boston, MA, 1956, Ava Lark and her son Lewis have rented a run-down house in a nice, safe, family neighborhood. The other families seem to look down on newcomers - Ava is divorced and the only Jewish person living in the neighborhood. Lewis finds it hard making new friends, except for Rose and Jimmy who also live in a fatherless home. Set in the midst of the Cold War and the paranoia which exists, Jimmy goes missing without a trace. His disappearance deeply affects Rose and Lewis who are certain Jimmy must be alive. They are determined to get to the bottom of his disappearance, which is eventually revealed. Fast forward seven years Lewis is now living and working in Wisconsin and Rose is in PA but, the two are forever changed
I enjoyed this audio book but, at times the voices seemed a bit too depressing. I loved the setting and descriptions of what life was like back then, as it's always nice to read about a time period a baby boomer like me can relate to. The author's writing is very descriptive and, although the story of what happened to Jimmy seemed to fall into place too easily, I still enjoyed this one. (4/5 stars)
Currently Reading
- Being Mortal (reread for my book group)
- Everything Happens Today; Jesse Browner
I am so sorry for your loss. I understand and empathize with you, and what a sweet tribute you wrote about Lily. Hugs and thoughts to you.
ReplyDeleteThank you Kathy, a huge loss indeed.
DeleteI'm so sorry to hear about Lily. My dog is getting older and I'm always afraid for the day she'll pass. *hugs*
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Lauren, it's just a reminder to enjoy everyday with those we love.
DeleteWe are so very sorry to hear about dear Lily. It sure is tough. We send you purrs, hugs and all our love.
ReplyDeleteThanks Brian, I know you and your family can understand the pain of this loss.
DeleteI am so sorry to hear about Lily. Losing a beloved pet is so hard. I'm sending hugs your way.
ReplyDeleteThanks Kathy, I know you lost your sweet pup years ago and bet the loss is still very real.
DeleteI am so very very sorry about your loss. It is so very hard.
ReplyDeleteThank you Mystica, I appreciate your taking the time to comment.
DeleteI am so sorry to hear about Lily. It sounds like you and she had a wonderful life together. Making that final decision is so difficult even when you know it is right. Sending hugs.
ReplyDeleteShe was the best Helen, thanks you.
DeleteI'm so sorry to hear about Lily, Diane! Losing a pet is awful.... thinking of you and sending hugs.
ReplyDeleteThanks JoAnn. I know non pet owners might find this type of grief difficult but, it's real.
DeleteI'm so sorry about Lily. Hang in there.
ReplyDeleteThanks Sarah.
DeleteOh, Diane. I am so sad to read about Lily! It sounds like she had a wonderful life as your best friend and I know you'll miss her terribly. Sending you hugs, dear friend.
ReplyDeleteThanks Les, it's sad for sure, non pet owners might find this type of grief difficult but, it's real.
DeleteSo sorry to hear about Lily. The hardest decision we can make is to let a beloved animal go - but it's also the kindest.
ReplyDeleteIt sure is difficult, but, comments like yours Mary mean so much. I shared them with my husband.
DeleteDiane, I'm so sorry about Lily! She was a beautiful cat and I loved your tribute to her. So very hard to make choices about what is best for them. Our daughter and son-in-law had something similar happen to one of their dogs - a sudden decline, trouble breathing, and it turned out - a tumor inside his heart. I'm so happy that Lily brought you such joy. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteThank you Kay. I felt a need to share just how unique and loved she was.
DeleteOh, Diane ... my heart aches. I'm so sorry that you've lost your precious Lily.
ReplyDeleteOh Beth, Thank you so much, I knew something was wrong but didn't expect to get this type of report. If we would have brought her home for a while it would be for selfish reasons and not in her best interest.
DeleteDiane, I'm so sorry for your loss, glad for all the lovely years you had with her❤
ReplyDeleteThank you Peggy. It's never long enough when we lose someone we love is it?
DeleteWhy is loss so hard? But it is. And that first night without the loved one is the hardest. I am glad you had two good books to read during that time.
ReplyDeleteWhen I awoke last light and shifted position, realizing once again she was gone, falling asleep again was next to impossible.
DeleteI am so deeply, deeply sorry about sweet Lily. I soooo KNOW!!!! Cody doesn't sleep with us, but, my Angel Bobo and I spent many, many years where it was just us....he ALWAYS slept with me, even when I took a nap. When he left, it was so hard. Keeping you in my heart, what a pretty girl she was (((hugs)))) xoxo catchatwithcarenandcody
ReplyDeleteCaren, thank you so much, I know you know how painful a bond like this really is.
DeleteI am so sorry to hear about Lily. She was a lucky cat to have someone as caring as you.
ReplyDeleteAww Leslie, thank you. Comments like this help so much.
DeleteI'm so sorry for your loss. Lily sounds like a wonderful kitty. Hugs!
ReplyDeleteOne of a kind for sure Iliana. Thank you.
DeleteOh, Diane, my heart is sore thinking of your loss of your beloved cat Lily. I know this may sound stupid to say, but I will be thinking of you. I hope you will be able to take the time to really take very, very good care of yourself now.
ReplyDeleteJudith, what a sweet message; I appreciate your concern.
DeleteI am so sorry for your loss!
ReplyDeleteThank you Kailana
DeleteYes, it is just as painful to lose our fur babies as it is a loved human. Thank you Vicki
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry, Diane. (I have been away this weekend but I also saw your Instagram post.) She was a beautiful cat. I know you will miss your "equal opportunity lapper" and special companion. This exceptional cat had an exceptional family. <3 Diane, please take extra good care as you miss and remember dear Lily.
ReplyDeleteThank you Susan, Lily was the perfect cat that should have been cloned! Miss her everyday.
DeleteOh, so sad about Lily. You will miss her forever, and remember your special times together.
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed Is This Tomorrow, but it was definitely gloomy, and it also represents what those times were like for some of us. Cold War life might have looked picture-perfect from the outside, but the fears, even paranoia, that riddled those times...I remember it well. I wouldn't want to go back there.
Thanks for sharing.
Thanks you Laurel for the Lily comments - she would have made every non-cat lover a convert!!
DeleteSo sorry to hear about Lily, what a wonderful kitty! You were blessed and she will be missed. Sending hugs your way.
ReplyDeleteThank you Nise, she was one of a kind.
DeleteI'm so sorry about the loss of your beloved cat.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing information on the new Alex George novel. I also loved A Good American so I'd love to read the new one.
Thanks Margot, Lily was the best.
DeleteI liked A Good American more but this was good as well.
I am so sorry about your beautiful Lily.
ReplyDeleteThank you Jennifer
DeleteI am so sorry, Diane. I wish I could reach through the computer and give you a big hug. I have tears in my eyes for you. Lily was a beautiful and wonderful friend to you from the sounds of it. Well loved. You were both lucky to have each other. I am thinking of you, Diane.
ReplyDeleteHugs back to you Wendy. My heart is broken but, like he knew I was hurting, my 15 year old cat Buddy became me new constant companion and lap cat. Funny how they know.
DeleteI am sorry for your loss Diane. Lily sounds a little like my dog who also loves the sun and sitting in my lap. My heart will break when she is gone. I will be thinking about you and your family during this difficult time.
ReplyDeletePat, I appreciate you comment on the loss of our Lily. I'm glad you have a pet that brings you such joy. It's always hard to have to let them go. (Hopefully, your dog will live a nice long life.)
DeleteOh, Diane, I am so sorry about Lily. Isn't it amazing that such a tiny presence could have such a big place in your lives and your hearts?
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