In Love: A Memoir of Love and Loss; Amy Bloom
Random House Audio - 2022
(Narrated by the author - good)
(4 hours and 49 min.)
Sometimes even when I think I need an upbeat read, I find myself drawn to darker or sadder stories -- Case in point: In Love: A Memoir of Love and Loss by Amy Bloom.
After meeting in 2005, Amy Bloom and Brian Ameche married in 2007. Both were in previous relationships but, they knew they were a match early in the relationship. Each had friends, family and a job they enjoyed and many shared interests as well. One day Amy began to notice subtle but odd changes in her husband, they were easy to brush off at first but, soon Brian ended up leaving the job he loved and after MRIs and various testing in 2019 was diagnosed with Alzheimers at the age of 65.
For Brian one thing was certain, he was adamant about wanting to die with dignity before his disease took him on a journey of forgetting everything and everyone that had meaning in his life. He asked his wife to research death with dignity options for when the time was right.
Although there are several states in the US that have so called "right to die" laws in place, the criteria is very specific and most states require that the individual's illness be terminal and that death was likely to occur within 6 months. As a couple they decided to look into assisted suicide options in Zurich, Switzerland. Bloom tell readers that Dignitas is the best option for US citizens who are not terminally ill if they feel the need to end their lives. After going through the application process, a required autobiography, interviews, medical reports and much more, Brian eventually meets the requirements and in January 2020 with his wife Amy by his side he ended his life.
This memoir was a bit of an eye-opener and I'm glad I had the opportunity to listen to it. It is not a long book and it is written in a way that is not all doom and gloom. The author has a way of infusing her wit and humor at appropriate times as she shares the story of their years together. Many readers may shy a way from a topic such as this but, I do recommend this one.
Rating - 4.5/5 stars